Do I Really Need to Quit Alcohol, or Can I Just Cut Back?
- Jul 2, 2025
- 4 min read
Updated: Aug 8, 2025
“Do I really need to quit, or can I just cut back?”
It’s one of the most common questions we hear from people wanting to change their relationship with alcohol.
Cutting back sounds reasonable. Manageable. Like a safer middle ground.
But when someone comes to us with this question, it’s rarely the first time they’ve asked it. And it’s rarely the first time they’ve tried moderation, either.
In this blog, we’ll explore why moderation is so appealing, why it often doesn’t work the way we hope — and what real stories can teach us about finding a better way forward
Why Most People Want to Cut Back But Rarely Works
Let’s face it: quitting can feel extreme. Most people don’t see themselves as “that bad.” So, understandably, they aim for moderation first.
Take Melinda, for example, who shared her story on our podcast.
“I actually never said to myself, ‘I’m going to stop.’ I just never thought that was possible. I thought I just needed to learn how to manage it.”
And that’s exactly what most people try first, managing it.
But here’s the truth: most moderation plans start with good intentions and end with broken promises.
Below are some of the most common signs we’ve seen again and again:
You Set Limits, But They Never Stick
You’ve probably tried to control your drinking by setting rules:
“Only on weekends,” or “just two drinks.”
At first, maybe it works. But those rules tend to bend — a special occasion here, a stressful day there — until they quietly vanish altogether.
Take Dany, for example, who also shared her story on our podcast :
“Day one wasn’t hard. I was so sick, I just couldn’t even look at a drink. But by day three, I’d start thinking — I’ve done well, maybe I don’t have a problem. Then I’d drink again to celebrate.”
Even when you tell yourself, “Just one,” it rarely ends there. One drink becomes two, then three.
Not because you lack willpower, but because the pattern is already in motion. And deep down, you know how easily those limits unravel once the first drink is poured deep down, you know how easily those limits unravel once the first drink is poured.
You’re Always Negotiating With Yourself
You promise to start Monday. Or after the next social event. Or once the weather changes.
Any excuse to delay change.
These internal negotiations become a constant mental loop and they drain you more than you realise.
This isn’t laziness or failure. It’s a sign that alcohol has become tied to how you cope — emotionally, socially, and even mentally.
Guilt and Shame Are Creeping In
You wake up regretting the night before again. You feel like you're letting yourself down, maybe even letting others down too.
You tell yourself it won’t happen again, but it does. That cycle of guilt is exhausting and it doesn’t come from nowhere.
Because this isn’t about weakness. It’s about patterns that have taken hold over time. And patterns are hard to change with willpower alone.
Conclusion
you’ve found yourself in a cycle of trying to cut back, setting rules, and then breaking them — you’re not alone.
This pattern is incredibly common, and it doesn’t mean you’re weak or broken. It simply means that moderation, for you, might not be the solution it seems.
If this article resonated with you, and you're ready for either a structured moderation plan or finally embracing an alcohol-free life, we’re here to guide you through it.
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About the Author
Graeme Alford is the founder of Reset My Future and has been sober for over 40 years. Once a high-functioning alcoholic whose addiction cost him everything—including his career and freedom—Graeme rebuilt his life from the ground up. Today, he leads a one-on-one recovery program that helps people stop drinking, reset their thinking, and start living a life they’re proud of. He holds a Diploma in Alcohol, Other Drugs & Mental Health and has worked with hundreds of clients who want a real alternative to traditional rehab. His approach blends lived experience with evidence-based strategies—and a deep belief that no one is too far gone to change.
